Monday, 10 May 2010

Twelve Rules for Reaching Your Goals

There's a difference between "goal setting" and "goal getting". As with many aspects of life, most people will start something new, but few will stick with it: books, diets, school, workout programs, learning a foreign language and spiritual disciplines just to name a few. To close the gap between goal "setting and getting" you must develop a level of discipline and inner motivation that gives you fuel for the journey. Following are twelve thoughts and strategies to help you run your race to win!

1. Understand that decisions and discipline are two of the most essential aspects of any successful endeavor. Decisions get you started and discipline helps you finish!

2. Understand that you are more likely to remain committed to reach your goal if you decide exactly what it is you want in the first place. Part of the "decision" aspect in point one is getting clear about precisely what you want in the first place. Most people in life don't get what they want because they don't know what they want!

3. Create a big enough "why" that helps you to endure what you have to do and how you have to do it in order to reach your goals. The "why" constitutes your reason or reasons for wanting to accomplish your goals. The "why" gives you pull power. The more and bigger reasons you have for attaining your goals, the less likely you are to quit when it gets tough.

4. Accept the fact that life and business are supposed to be difficult! The sooner you accept that success is not supposed to be a cakewalk, the easier it is to begin developing the discipline necessary to reach your goals. If you begin your goal-journey with unrealistic expectations, you'll become discouraged and quit when it gets tough.

5. Focus more on what you're becoming throughout the process than on what you're getting. Even if you don't see payoffs right away, what you're learning and the discipline you're developing throughout the process makes you far more valuable. To get more than you've got, you must first become more than you are. The "becoming" has to happen first!

6. Establish mile-markers and celebrate little victories along the way. Pay yourself with special perks or rewards as you achieve the daily, weekly or monthly goals that bring you closer to your major objectives. Without evidences of your progress, your journey can become a "death march."

7. Throughout the process, don't mistake motion for progress. Just because you're active doesn't mean you're accomplishing anything, or the right things! Regardless how beautiful your goals and strategy, you must occasionally look at results!

8. If the cost of continuing towards your goals ever seems too high, weigh it against the cost of quitting! The cost of quitting is staggering. And when you quit, it says more about who you are than where you are.
9. Derive encouragement from the fact that developing tenacity is a character trait that separates you from average performers. No one can teach you tenacity, persistence or mental toughness. They are "inside" jobs that make you different, better and more desirable.

10. Guard your inner dialogue throughout your journey. Telling yourself, "I'm not going to make it," or "I just can't get this," etc. is a sure way to talk yourself into a depression. Make sure what you're telling yourself elevates, rather than devastates, you!

11. Don't become so fixated on the destination that you don't enjoy the journey! Enjoy the ride! Life is 95% journey and 5% destinations. If you only think about the destination, you'll miss out on the joy and potential of TODAY!

12. Remember that success in reaching your goals will depend less on the brilliance of your plans than on the consistency of your actions.

You reach worthwhile goals with diligent, daily disciplines and not in one fell swoop!

In a world filled with quitters, you'll find that there's plenty of room at the top for the handful of committed people prepared to persevere while others are playing; to do while they are dreaming, and to step up while they let up or lay down. 
By Dave Anderson, April 30, 2010

Wednesday, 12 August 2009

Hello !

हताशा के सख्त काले पत्थर को,
तिल - तिल तोड़ती रही
उँगलियों की नर्म छेनी से

एक दिन जब फटी - चिरी
उँगलियों से रक्त
पोंछ रही थी तो
आशा के एक दुपतिया नवांकुर ने
संध में से सर उठा कर कहा
हेलो !

These few lines have been source for uplifting my spirits when I feel low. I wish I had known the author. I wanna thank him/her for writing these powerful lines. I hope it inspire you my dear friend like it always does to me.

(image courtesy

Tuesday, 9 June 2009

Steve job says: :
I'm pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn't been fired from Apple. It was awful tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it. Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don't lose faith. I'm convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You've got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don't settle.

When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: "If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you'll most certainly be right." It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: "If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?" And whenever the answer has been "No" for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.

Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything Ð all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of other's opinions drown.

Steven Paul Jobs is co-founder, and CEO of Apple Inc.

Monday, 8 June 2009

The 90/10 Principle

Discover the 90/10 Principle.

It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations).
What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react.

What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us.
We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic.
We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.

How? ……….By your reaction.

You cannot control a red light. but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.

Let's use an example.
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened.
What happens next will be determined by how you react.

You curse.

You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus.
Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit.

After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home.

When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.

Why? …. Because of how you reacted in the morning.
Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?

The answer is “D".

You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.

Here is what could have and should have happened.

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "Its ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.

Notice the difference?

Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.


Because of how you REACTED.

You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you!

React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them?

WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive?

Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.

You are told you lost your job.

Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.

The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take outpour frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on.
Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.

Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.

The result?

Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.

It CAN change your life!!!

Author: Stephen Covey

Sunday, 7 June 2009

Power of smile

Lunch with God: A beautiful story

A little boy wanted to meet God. He knew it was a long trip to where God lived, so he packed his suitcase with Twinkies and a six-pack of root beer and he started his journey.

When he had gone about three blocks, he met an old woman. She was sitting in the park just staring at some pigeons. The boy sat down next to her and opened his suitcase. He was about to take a drink from his root beer when he noticed that the old lady looked hungry, so he offered her a Twinkie.
She gratefully accepted it and smiled at him. Her smile was so pretty that the boy wanted to see it again, so he offered her a root beer. Again, she smiled at him. The boy was delighted! They sat there all afternoon eating and smiling, but they never said a word. As it grew dark, the boy realized how tired he was and he got up to leave, but before he had gone more than a few steps, he turned around, ran back to the old woman, and gave her a hug. She gave him her biggest smile ever.
When the boy opened the door to his own house a short time later, his mother was surprised by the look of joy on his face. She asked him, "What did you do today that made you look so happy?" He replied, "I had lunch with God."
But before his mother could respond, he added, "...and you know what? She's got the most beautiful smile I've ever seen!"
Meanwhile, the old woman, also radiant with joy, returned to her home. Her son was stunned by the look of peace on her face and he asked, "Mother, what did you do today that made you so happy?" She replied, "I ate Twinkies in the park with God." However, before her son responded, she added, "...and you know, he's much younger than I expected."

Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around. Remember, we don't know what God will look like.
People come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. Embrace all equally!

Saturday, 6 June 2009

Believe in yourself

March to your own
different drummer,
Look to your different
Shining star,
Dance to your own
happy music.

Know just
how special you are.
Follow the path
you have chosen.

till your dream
has come true.

Climb the top
of your mountain....

Keep on believing in you.

by E. Cunningham

Friday, 5 June 2009

Best of the best

If you cant be pine on the top of the hill
Be a scrub in the valley - But be the best little scrub by the side of the hill.

Be a bush, if you can't be a tree.
If you can't be a bush, be a bit of grass
And highway happier make.
If you can't be a muskie, just be a bass
But the liveliest bass in the lake.

We can't all be captains, we have got to be crew
There is something for all of us here
There is big work to do and lesser to do
And the task we must do is the near.

If you can't be the highway then just be the trail
If you can't be the sun, just be the star

It isn't the size that you win or you fail
Be the best of whatever you are.

(ps : This motivating piece is by Douglas Malloch. I fetched it my my school time diary in which I used to write inspiring text and poems)